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letter of recLetter of Recommendation Time:

It is that most dreaded time of the year for me–letter of reference time.  It seems like everyone under the sun needs one: schools, colleges, jobs, camps, even the Boy Scouts.  One by one I have the dreaded pleasure of writing a one page letter about how great this student is and what an asset they are going to be to whatever endeavor they are applying.  I actually really enjoy the process of pausing and reflecting on the best version of that particular student.

Letters of recommendations are vital to the application process.  It is a document that vouches for the validity and competency of that individual.  As someone writing the letter, we have the responsibility of using our credibility to either stand behind someone, or throw them under the bus.  In this season with our students, we have the upper hand as we are the ones writing these letters.  But what I think is amazing is that the reverse is actually true.  While we  think we are simply writing letters for our students, in fact, our students themselves are our letters of recommendation.

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A couple of years ago I received a letter from a student who was just about to graduate.  In my 15+ years of student ministry, I have never received a letter this thoughtful from a current student.  Even though they rarely write letters like this, I believe that what is said in this letter is more true than we realize.  This letter could have been written by any student in your ministry.  But on the off chance you haven’t gotten this letter yet I wanted to share with you mine.

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 Guess What? It’s Not About You!

A call to student ministry is a special and unique thing. We have been called by God to participate in the spiritual development of students. For a very specific and often chaotic season, we get the privilege and honor of being adults who coach, mentor, disciple and journey with adolescents who are exploring their faith and making it their own. What could be greater? As we attempt to live this out in the real world with real students in a real context, this simple and yet profound calling gets blurry.

The students we work with have joys and concerns, victories and losses, growth and set backs. We attempt to be there for every student for every part of the roller coaster ride; and while we work our guts out, pouring our lives into these students, our vision becomes impaired. Because very slowly, without us knowing, the joy that comes from getting to be there for students and walk with them turns and starts to become about us. Instead of being an adult who journeys with students for a season of their lives, we see ourselves as the adult who journeys with them, who advocates for them, who loves them, who will get them through adolescence, who will solve their problems, etc…

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