I recently read a book where the author criticized the church of her youth as seemingly only caring about her virginity. My friends who also have read the book read that critique and resonated with it. In fact almost any millennial upon reflection of their time in student ministry has the same critique.
I actually think that this is an unfair critique. This is because youth ministry 5-10 years ago was about maintaining a particular culture, a Christian culture. The problem is that virginity seemed to be the highest goal, rather than a discipline that was an indicator of much larger Christian virtues and culture.
Virginity was an indicator of deeper Christian character such as temperance, prudence, justice, courage humility, selflessness, and self-control. These virtues, not virginity used to be what marked Christians and is what built strong Christian culture, strong Christian families, and strong Christian youth ministries that helped reenforce these virtues.
To simply put it, virginity is an indicator of mature Christian culture. It is like calculus. In order to understand calculus you need to know and understand, rudimentary math, algebra, geometry, and trigonometry.Read More